Domination in it's Raw Definition

D.S.
(Domination/Submission )

~ I'm a submissive kind of chick completely in the bedroom. ~

Now when I said that how many of you envisioned me chewing on a gag-ball at the recieving end of a dominatrix? Uh-huh. That's what I thought.

The truth is that for the most part when it comes to sex- any time the words 'submissive' or 'domination' come into play there's a stereo-typic tie to the classic S & M type scenarios. Immediately you envision consentual physical aggression or bondage and bull whips.

Okay alright, in most cases this may be true... But the term domination in the sexual dictionary is referenced in two ways:

--One you're familar with ( described above), as the hard-core puppetry and manipulating of the person you're with.
--The other is domination in its most general sense of "commanding"; also meaning to lead.

The second definition of course touches no where upon the rigid higher-position of aggressive domination, but the underlying theme of the interaction taking place. Some good examples:

You can command a conversation, command a dance, command a room. That doesnt mean aggressively, it just means to be in control of. This could be a gentle push or a firm voice announcing the makes and moves.... *sigh*
Ah HAH, Control... it's a beautiful thing.

I for one love dominating a toast of wine, either privately or celebratorily with a group of people... I can give one hell of a cheers.

Gentle unspoken domination is also a favorite of mine; since I not only like to fight for the title sometimes, but I like to be a controling party in unique circumstances. Normally you should be able to tell which persona you take in a relationship or situation within the first hour. In my case, some times within the first five minutes.

Domination/ Command/ Contol- Its all the same. Whether you choose to use aggression in your dominatory role is up to you, regarless of whether the situation dictates it's sexual.

I hope this small informational ditty will ease the minds of those that may assume being dominating means they will have to inflict pain on their love, and or some strange S & M experience. In many cases it's quite the opposite... to be the one who sets the mood, makes the decisions, controls the flow of the sexual experience. That's true domination and it can be done without the whips, zip ties, degredation, or pain.

True examples of Domination include:
- Role playing: Teacher and student, Boss and secretary... etc.
- As it relates to bondage: The one who ties and takes advantage of
- As it relates to S & M: The person who inflicts the pain
- The action man/woman: Control and leader of the way the sex is flowing
- The heavy hand and tight grip: For those who like to man-handle and be rough
- For love making, and soft sensual experiences, the dominator is the one who knows what they like and makes it happen.

Submission is the reflection to domination; it is the soft supple opposite, the waiting nervousness, the receiver.
Submission ultimately means to let control go and follow the dance. Basically as you can imagine for every scenario there is another who will be the 'lay down', the puppet, the reciever.

I like receiving.... Dominate me.